Of butch gay men in showbiz

Me: I love it when people don’t assume gay = femme.

Friend: Ah, yes. What do you think of those flamboyant gays in showbiz? Do you think they’re making it worse for dude-liking dudes like us? ‘Cause when society sees them, they immediately expect all gays to act like them. What do you think?

Me: I don’t blame them because that’s who they are. But, I think, we can blame those who perpetuate the idea, and that also includes a lot of those “femmy gays” on telly.

Friend: Though now that there’re a lot of “masculine” natured celebrities that have come out, I think that’s really going to change.

Me: Not in the Philippines, not yet. We don’t have cisgender gay men in showbiz!

Friend: We don’t?

Me: They’re all pretending to be straight, because they love their masculinity too much.

Friend: What about those gay-rumoured hunks?

Me: None of them are out.

Friend: You don’t have to throw away your masculinity, but okay.

Me: Right, heterosexuality and masculinity are not the same banana, but they fear stigma.

Friend: Why is masculinity so “valued”, anyway?

Me: Because we live in a culture of hypermasculinity (and pseudomasculinity). Actually, the likes of [insert name of closeted gay celebrity] make it worse. He’s femmy in real life, but he pretends to be butch (never mind that he’s gay or straight).

Friend: But, he acts it so well!

Me: So people will think “O, kaya pala pa-macho, hindi pa kasi naglaladlad” (Oh, so that’s why he’s acting macho, he hasn’t outed himself yet).

Friend: Yeah, I hate that.

Me: They will think anybody who comes out is going to turn out like BB Gandanghari (not that there’s anything wrong with being gay and transgender). I will write about this!

Friend: Aaron Schwartz already did.

Me: Not in a Pinoy context, no! It’s different here.

Friend: Well, I mean, hopefully Western culture will trickle down as it does.

Me: I hope change trickles down soon, but I’m not sure if Western culture is going to help. Exactly what Aaron wrote.

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Activist, former England rugby union international player, and gay icon


KFC is serious with their “manning up” bullshit

Because one ad apparently isn’t enough to spread vile, stateside heterosexism to the unsuspecting, burger-crazy indios, they had to make a second ad of rivalling stupidity. As if this country needed more brain damage.

But hey, you can be cheap, heterosexist cretins if you like, KFC. Eat your fucking hearts out. In private. Don’t feed it to people. You’re not authorised to poison us. (That’s somebody else’s job.) And, even if I were to believe in this appalling misogyny, what the fuck does it have to do with the fucking burger? Sick.

PS: You disappoint me, KC. You disappoint gender sensitivity. You disappoint human decency.

Well, someone obviously wants to take the path of Colt .45 in making the stupidest, most sexist, most homophobic commercials

Thank you, KFC, for making Philippine advertisement a stupider, more sexist place for men to feel awkward about their honest-to-god intimacy. Not to mention, you’ve just estranged an entire sex with that stupid tagline. Man up? Really? In 2012? This is stupid and absurd, KFC. Really.

These guys have probably never watched a real football match in their entire lives or met a woman with a titanic appetite for flesh. Human up, wankers.

Kristy Fermin has been on my ‘Fuck You Very Much’ list since god-knows-when.

Abuse of Power by Coalition Against Trafficking In Women – Asia Pacific (CATW-AP) on Monday, April 11, 2011 at 6:38pm

Dear Editor,

Women friends asked me, why is Cristy Fermin even allowed to say the following on air in defending Willie Revillame?

1. “…dalawang lalaking personalidad lang ang parang pinapayagan ng publiko na maging ‘matulis’. Si Rico J. Puno lang atsaka si Willie. Pag sila ang nagdeliver para bang malaking karangalan mo pag mabastos ka.”

2. “(Aiza) Seguerra should not talk about morality as she lives an immoral life.”

The first justifies sexual harassment when done by certain individuals. Is there a worse way of humiliating women than by dignifying harassers? The second maligns lesbians as immoral. Both are appallingly, terribly sexist statements which condone abuse of women.

Media has long played a critical role in objectifying women, including children (as shown by the now controversial episode of Willie Revillame’s program), and this has led to the normalization of abuse against us. Men have thought it acceptable to harass or buy women (and children) as long as one is able to ‘deliver it well’ ala-Rico J. or Willie R. Those who own media outfits as well as advertisers capitalize on the sexual objectification of women and children. Homophobia and stigmatization of lesbians is also a form of gender-based violence.

We have had enough. It is high time that we talk about the role of media in stereotyping, sexualizing and justifying abuses and violence against women and children. It is heartening that artists are speaking up against these forms of abuse.

Corporate media, stop profiting at our expense!

Civil society, let us join hands in shaping a more responsible and gender-sensitive mass media.

Jean Enriquez
Executive Director, Coalition Against Trafficking in Women – Asia
Pacific (CATW-AP)
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