Pater dimitte illis, non enim sciunt, quid faciunt (Or you can also smite them, Lord)

All decent folk know about the ignorance, irrationality, and general arseholery surrounding LGBTQ-phobia. Whether it’s homophobia, biphobia, or transphobia, we’ve seen it, we’ve heard about it, and we might’ve experienced it ourselves.

In the United States, champions of LGBTQ-phobia are usually from the Christian Right. They’re loud, they’re rabid, and they’re really stupid. (As the popular adage goes, “Never underestimate the power of stupid people in large groups”.)

Fortunately, we have countless friends who tirelessly fight this sort of unnatural and unintelligent bigotry every day.

BuzzFeed has done a superb job in creating entertaining ways to educate the ‘Great Unwashed’. Here are some of the really good ones:

HRC has also continuously updated us on the rapid progression of marriage equality in the United States:

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I know Uncle Sam and I haven’t always got(en) along very well, but I’m really happy with how things are unfolding. There’s still a lot more to be done, sure, but the progress is so encouraging, I could shit daisies.

It’s not just the activists, it’s also (and, perhaps, more importantly) the ‘regular’ people out there who’ve stood their ground when it mattered the most. Thank you from the bottom of my mongrel heart.

Unfortunately, at least in terms of LGBTQ awareness, I live in a much sadder place. Whilst more than half of the United States are enjoying marriage equality, a great majority of my countrymen are on the fence whether transgender murder victim, Jennifer Laude, should be treated like a human being or not. They refuse to talk about it, and those who do open their mouths are often much, much worse. Dustin writes:

Many of these comments express disgust and indignation, not because a person was brutally murdered, but because “a tranny tried to have sex with a straight man” …

Many comments expressed satisfaction that karmic justice was served, not because a murderer was caught, but because “a sinner was punished” …

Some comments even suggested that it was funny, and it was Jennifer’s fault that she was murdered because she was “pretending to be a woman”.

Any decent society would be enraged, but the one I live in I have to put up with, apparently, isn’t decent enough. This, despite the claimed “godliness” of this little archipelago republic.

Dustin continues to write:

It should be no surprise that hate crimes against the LGBT community are tolerated in a country where majority of the people identify as Catholics, Christians, or Muslims; all of them, religions that hate homosexuality.

I can provide a litany of research proving how those who believe themselves to be the holiest of the holy, the most righteous of the righteous, the most faithful of the faithful, the most religious of the religious, the closest to God, are the most determined advocates of hate and bigotry. The most fervent believers of homophobic religious doctrine inevitably become the most homophobic people. When a person is indoctrinated and trained from childhood to hate homosexuality, it’s rather difficult to unlearn it as an adult.

In the words of Jennifer’s fiancé, “No wonder the monster soldier did think he would get away with it. You show him that every day. Your society does. How should a foreigner respect people like Jennifer if your own society doesn’t?

We ought to be ashamed of ourselves, for fucking serious. Dare we even say we’re one of the most “gay-friendly” in the world? Condescension and conditional tolerance don’t count, you shits. We can’t even care to learn the difference between a gay man and a transwoman and a cross-dresser. Even if we have to type it for them, again and again and again.

Protesters, mostly supporters of LGBT (Lesbians Gays Bisexuals and Transgenders) hold lighted candles and display messages to demand justice in the killing of a Filipino transgender Jeffrey "Jennifer" Laude, with a U.S. Marine as a possible suspect Tuesday, Oct.14, 2014 in Manila, Philippines. The activists demanded that Washington hand over to the Philippines a Marine implicated in the killing of a transgender identified as Jerry Laude also known as "Jennifer" which the demonstrators labeled a hate crime. In a US Embassy statement issued Monday, it said "The United States Embassy in Manila expresses its deepest condolences to the family and friends of Jeffrey Laude, who was found dead in Olongapo city on October 11. (AP Photo/Bullit Marquez)

Protesters, mostly supporters of LGBT (Lesbians Gays Bisexuals and Transgenders) hold lighted candles and display messages to demand justice in the killing of a Filipino transgender Jeffrey “Jennifer” Laude, with a U.S. Marine as a possible suspect Tuesday, Oct.14, 2014 in Manila, Philippines. (AP Photo/Bullit Marquez)

I know we have some of the bravest people fighting for acceptance and awareness around here, but the vast swathes of sad fucks still dominate this country, and it makes me want to vomit.

You don’t deserve this. We don’t deserve this.

It will get better, but not until we join the rest of the modern world.

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Fuck You, Hit-and-Runners

One second, they’re sitting across you in the jeepney. Next thing you know, they’re lying on the ground, fighting for their lives. The sight stained my eyes. The sound haunted my ears. My heart had broken into many pieces. How quickly things change in a matter of seconds.

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Flowers for the couple

They weren’t my friends. I didn’t know them in any meaningful way. They were just a random couple carrying a box full of tomatoes, preparing to start their day at the market. Until they got hit and run over by some mindless prick who didn’t even bother to stop. He was probably under the influence. It was a Friday night/Saturday morning, after all.

You can be the most careful pedestrian in the world and still die on the road because some arsehole decides to drive drunk and ignore their conscience altogether. Fuck you, drunk drivers. Fuck you, hit-and-runners. Fuck you all very much.

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Kristy Fermin has been on my ‘Fuck You Very Much’ list since god-knows-when.

Abuse of Power by Coalition Against Trafficking In Women – Asia Pacific (CATW-AP) on Monday, April 11, 2011 at 6:38pm

Dear Editor,

Women friends asked me, why is Cristy Fermin even allowed to say the following on air in defending Willie Revillame?

1. “…dalawang lalaking personalidad lang ang parang pinapayagan ng publiko na maging ‘matulis’. Si Rico J. Puno lang atsaka si Willie. Pag sila ang nagdeliver para bang malaking karangalan mo pag mabastos ka.”

2. “(Aiza) Seguerra should not talk about morality as she lives an immoral life.”

The first justifies sexual harassment when done by certain individuals. Is there a worse way of humiliating women than by dignifying harassers? The second maligns lesbians as immoral. Both are appallingly, terribly sexist statements which condone abuse of women.

Media has long played a critical role in objectifying women, including children (as shown by the now controversial episode of Willie Revillame’s program), and this has led to the normalization of abuse against us. Men have thought it acceptable to harass or buy women (and children) as long as one is able to ‘deliver it well’ ala-Rico J. or Willie R. Those who own media outfits as well as advertisers capitalize on the sexual objectification of women and children. Homophobia and stigmatization of lesbians is also a form of gender-based violence.

We have had enough. It is high time that we talk about the role of media in stereotyping, sexualizing and justifying abuses and violence against women and children. It is heartening that artists are speaking up against these forms of abuse.

Corporate media, stop profiting at our expense!

Civil society, let us join hands in shaping a more responsible and gender-sensitive mass media.


Jean Enriquez
Executive Director, Coalition Against Trafficking in Women – Asia
Pacific (CATW-AP)
Telefax: +632-4342149